It is ok not to have the answer …

Sculptures, questions and, for a change, accepting there isn’t really a right answer.

Myself, husband and some lovely friends and their kids recently visited Yorkshire Sculpture Park. We had a great day out which gave us the chance to catch up, take in lots of fresh, cold, Yorkshire air and engage the more creative side of our brains. There are a number of permanent exhibits along with a temporary installation, Poppies: Wave which is taken from the incredible Blood Swept Lands and Seas of Red which were on display at the Tower of London in the autumn of 2014.

There were a number of abstract sculptures that provoked some interesting discussion between myself and our friend’s 6 year old boy. We stopped at each one and chatted about the sculptures and what they meant…..

Of course we didn’t really know, even after reading the brief descriptions we weren’t really clear. We imagined what might be the answer and felt quite happy that we didn’t know and just moved on to the next one.

On reflection I noted that it was time so well spent. A refreshing reminder that it is totally ok not to completely understand some things, to just accept them as we see them. We don’t always need to over think, unpick and reshape them until they fit into something we can make sense of.

Trying to strike a balance between ‘understanding’ and ‘letting go’ is a delicate task and it seems that adulthood becomes more about understanding the ‘how’ and the ‘why’ and less about accepting. This of course has it’s own benefits and I am a natural ‘questioner’ but chatting with this fantastic, inquisitive 6 year old reminds me that at some point we were all like that – asking (what felt like) an endless amount of questions at a fast pace, accepting answers, questioning them briefly (if necessary) then filtering and storing information all whilst being focused on moving forward with each question.

Often we do the opposite and become too concerned with the detail – there is definitely something to be said about not getting hung up on the bits we might not really understand, or like, or agree with and instead trusting that we know as much as we need to in that moment.

Any thoughts and comments welcome, and appreciated. Have a lovely week xx


One thought on “It is ok not to have the answer …

  1. Alkistis Frentzou says:

    Well..I guess my inquisitive 6 year old must have asked you a million questions in the park and probably another million in the car! We don’t get as many, but as he doesn’t see you as much, he probably took advantage of the day! And you are right, sometime is ok not to have the answers….life can be very simple when we can just accept that it is what it is….

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